I am 33 years old and I bought my condo in downtown Vancouver after receiving an inheritance at the age of 24. I live close to my work, and because I own the place outright, I never charged my girlfriend Stephanie (28) any rent. We’ve been together for 3 years, and she lived with me for almost 2 of those years. I also earn more than she does, so I covered most living expenses without any issue.
About a month ago, she told me she was going to a family dinner. Her parents live about an hour away, and during our relationship, I joined her for family events many times. This time, she said it was a private family meeting about her grandmother’s health, so I wasn’t invited. She asked to borrow my car, and I agreed.
Later that night, around 10 PM, she texted me saying she had a few drinks with her mom and would spend the night there. The next morning at 10 AM, she still wasn’t home and wasn’t responding to my messages or calls. I eventually contacted her mother, who told me there was no family dinner at all.
Around noon, someone buzzed my apartment—it was Stephanie. She immediately told me she had lost her keys, including:
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The building FOB
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The key to my apartment
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The key to my car
She also didn’t know where my car was.
After asking repeatedly what happened, she finally admitted she hadn’t gone to see her family. Instead, she went out with a friend, stayed out very late, and allowed someone she didn’t know to drive my new car. The car was later towed because it was left in a no-parking zone in downtown Vancouver.
This situation created multiple financial and legal concerns, including:
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Property risk
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Vehicle liability
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Safety issues
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Loss of access keys
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Potential insurance complications
Despite the seriousness of the situation, she insisted she “did nothing wrong” and said she only lied because she thought I wouldn’t approve of her going out.
I decided to end the relationship and asked her to move out. My reasoning was simple:
This wasn’t just about a car — it was about trust, responsibility, and respect for shared property.
Her family thinks I overreacted, but from my perspective, losing keys, misusing my vehicle, creating unnecessary risk, and lying about her whereabouts for nearly 24 hours were major red flags.
A few clarifications:
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Yes, I ended the relationship as well as the living arrangement.
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The police helped me locate where the car was towed.
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The building replaced the door lock for security reasons.
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She paid for the towing fees, and she agreed to cover the cost of rekeying the vehicle.
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She and her friend are still trying to recover the missing keys.
Given everything that happened, I don’t feel wrong for prioritizing safety, accountability, and financial protection.